Vany communities around me are currently experiencing a stress test. The word midlife crisis is often used. I think it's a stupid word because it suggests that life, individual life, is in crisis. This perspective disturbs me. Why should life have a crisis? It seems more likely that communities are being called into question. A breakout, a desire for freedom, self-realization, wanting to catch up. This is another idea that is disturbing. Was the past wrong? That would be a worrying idea. How can the past be wrong?
Rather, perhaps something has changed. This change upsets the familiar, the stable, the status quo. The question is rather this: Why do I want to change and where do I want to go? Is the change I want to allow into my life a good thing? Only from this question does it make sense to cite the concept of crisis. What if the change is good, what if it is bad? Who has the crisis then?
We are constantly growing, growing out and beyond. We should support each other in this. Because this growth causes growing pains. It causes stress at the breaking points. This is where anger and disappointment, fear and insecurity arise.
Bringing about an external change is perhaps more of a skip. In this case, life may have been asleep for a little too long and not noticed the change. Mindfulness is required here. Listen to the growth in order to prevent a crisis.
